Toasts can be, well um, unusual sometimes. Stressful perhaps, sometimes even a little embarrassing. There are literally hundreds (maybe thousands) of internet sites, books, and services dedicated to helping people write speeches and toasts.

Typically started by the best man followed by the maid of honor. This is the norm for the majority of weddings. What follows though is entirely up to you. Sometimes the bride and/or groom will give a thank you to everyone. Maybe one of the parents will toast.

I have included some general guidelines that I hope you find useful.

1) Decide in advance who is toasting and in what order. If you like, have your DJ/emcee introduce them.

2) If you are toasting, use your own words and speak from the heart. Humor usually works very well here.

3) Keep it brief, usually less than 2 or 3 minutes

4) Be tactful, do not mention the bride or grooms previous relationships for example.

5) Prepare and practice your speech well in advance. Think about how you will stand. Hold that glass high when it's time. The photographer will thank you.

6) Relax and be yourself. Take your time and if you mess up you do not have to apologize. Most people know how difficult it can be to speak in public.


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